Here is the new newsletter that I promised! I hope that you will enjoy it and if you do or if you don’t I would appreciate your feedback.
I am so happy to be a part of a group we have called Resilience Tutors. This group is made up of hypnotists that I believe are knowledgeable and are also dedicated to making themselves and the people they work with more resilient.
This month my guest writers are Marcia Tank and John Zimmer and Barb Kearns. Marcia is truly a student of life and has taken classes from some very amazing teachers and she is an amazing teacher and coach. Marcia is focusing on using hypnosis in sports and how we use words. John is a stage hypnotist along with the therapeutic side of hypnosis. John is a musician and has been everything from an EMT to a businessman. This month he wrote about hypnosis and music. Barb is a healer. She is a very good hypnotist, but she uses Reiki, stones and oils in her work.
This is what you will find as you read on———
Jane’s – Resilience
Marcia –Fishing, Connection and ‘smack’ talk
Barb –Teasing vs Sarcasm
John—Music and Hypnotism
Rocky the Raccoon
The July class on Saturday July 30th from 9am. -noon will be about becoming more Resilient by learning about the people that created our country.
Our Founding Fathers and Founding Mothers were strong and resilient.
What can we learn from them 240 years later and how can we model their strengths?
They were far from perfect but a hero or heroine is not perfect they are people like us but they have noble qualities, moral or physical courage.
This class will be held on Saturday but you will be included if you wish in a 30 day on line challenge. After the 30th you will choose a characteristic you would like to grow in your life. We will all work together supporting each other to grow our strengths.
Muhammed Ali once said, “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.”
It made me think about what my life was about and what was my room rent?
I think we are given hints about what our gifts are and how we can use those gifts to make the world better.
I believe that my gift is resilience as Mr. Webster defines it, “the ability to bounce back”. Maybe that was what the stroke was all about, a test on my bouncing ability. We don’t need resilience only when we have a health crisis, we have mini challenges every day. It could be dealing with a bully, losing someone or something we love. The challenge is to be in some control of our emotions and our actions so we can move toward the life we desire. We have choices every day and we will experience the consequences of those choices.
I believe that my purpose and my passion is to learn, teach and live resilience. I see it everywhere I look. Yoga is flexibility and self-discipline of the body. Mindfulness and hypnosis is also flexibility in the way you look at things and self-disciple of the mind. You become more resilient the more flexible and self-disciplined you are.
Close your eyes and count from 20 down to one and with each number say a word that you want to be a part of your personality. Example 20-I am strong-19 I am brave—etc. when you reach 1 start back toward 20 using similar words. This will take about 2 minutes. If you did this three times a day you would be amazed that the focus you would create. You would see a different you with greater self-confidence and happiness.
Until next time—
Vacations and Fishing
Vacations: The Nature of Relationships, Connecting, Relaxing, Revitalizing & Fun – Marcia
Summer Vacation! It’s a wonderful time of year.
It’s a time for connecting, relaxing, revitalizing and fun.
Fishing, Smack Talk, Card-Playing, Food, Connection and Fun!
My partner and I head to Minnesota every year for two weeks, and we invite friends to join us. This year we had two couples join us the first weekend for Memorial Day, and a friend of Steve’s came up for the rest of the holiday.
The theme of the vacation is fishing. Major Fishing for the men. Every day, three-times-a-day fishing. It was no surprise when I asked what they liked best about vacation, and all of the men looked at me like I’d lost my mind and exclaimed, “Fishing!” Collin said it best, “Well, since it’s a fishing vacation, hush…..Fishing?!” There was a certain tone to his voice; I believe it’s called sarcasm. Grave sarcasm. This was also a theme for the trip.
Attempting to finish my interview with Collin, I asked him what else he liked about the vacation.
He looked at me, again as though my brain had taken a leave of absence. Like pictures, looks are worth a thousand words. Or just one… “Duh?” End of interview, end of conversation. Apparently my group of fishing men were concise.
Katie, on the other hand, had more to say. She enjoys getting away and doing something different. She’s an Adventure Girl. On one of her favorite trips, she navigated white waters while rafting in Colorado.
For Katie, fishing is fun, but playing cards and talking smack tops her list of vacation enjoyment.
And she’s a pro at both. The first night I played cards with her, 5 years ago, I knew I liked her immediately. Steve lectured her on how to play “500” for a good half hour. We played a practice hand, and he gave her many rules on, “how to…” “never do…” and “always do…” And then he chose her as his partner. First hand, she bid 7 and promptly lay down a 4 of spades, looked Steve in the eye, and said sweetly, “There you go, Steve, take that one, partner.” If you know anything about “500,” you know she broke a number of rules with that! And she let Steve know what she thought about his rules! Everyone else at the table knew Steve, and we all held our breath. With that one gesture, she became his friend for life, greatly respected. She’d made her connection and set the stage for the relationship – elegantly, sweetly, and quite surprisingly! Lesson for Baby Boomers – Gen Xers don’t respond well to rules!
Katie also likes the food and company that go along with vacations.
Lynn was a quiet guest who seemed to enjoy reading her book and watching hummingbirds.
Fishing tops Steve’s list of vacation fun. He also enjoys playing cards, especially with Collin and Katie. And, of course, smack-talk goes great with both.
Fishing also tops Lacey’s list of vacation fun. Lacey is a one-year-old Golden Retriever.
She loves to fish. She especially enjoys managing people who are fishing.
Lacey’s idea of smack talk is whining when no one catches a fish during the first few minutes in the boat. She keeps tabs on everyone in the boat, running from the front of the boat to the back when someone hooks a fish. She dances in celebration when the fish is pulled into the boat. And if it’s returned to the water, she gazes in wonder at the water. Whining also begins when she knows we’re heading “home” to the cabin and fishing is done for the day.
Me? I love the natural beauty surrounding us – the herons, cranes and loons. The fish you can see in the crystal clear water. The lily pads with bulbs ready to blossom.
I love the fun of the verbal sparring, the connection that comes with the gentle ribbing, the company of good people who come with the intention of having fun. That’s my priority. Connecting and having fun. Feeding guests and playing cards.
I love the stillness in the boat when everyone is quiet for a few moments and there is a deep, deep stillness on the lake. And then you realize a frog is croaking, a fish is splashing, a bird is singing, and your friend at the front of the boat just lost a huge fish…..Bazinga!!! Game on.
Connection. Fun. Relaxation, Revitalizing. There are many different ways of doing it. This is my Up North revitalization. Next, I look forward to a very different energy of revitalizing at the NGH conference in August. Very different.
Sarcasm or Bullying? Barb Kearns
This question was posed to me, is sarcasm bordering on bullying?
“Really, what genius came up with that question?”
Can you recognize it when you hear it or say it?
Like a lot of things in life, it will come down to your opinion and intention.
When sarcasm is used with a sharp tone and mean intention, it can hurt the person on the receiving end. So it makes you think, when we come back with a quick remark, is it teasing or sarcasm and what is your intention? I feel repetitive sarcasm can border on bullying when that seems to be the only way someone knows how to communicate. It is exhausting for everyone involved.
Is sarcasm so much a part of our conversations that we are getting immune to it? Is it seen more as just teasing? Are children exposed to so much of it growing up, that it has become a common part of their lives? When our children respond to something with sarcasm is that taken as bullying? Do they know what sarcasm is?
I think a lot of people call sarcasm, teasing, and they use it as a defensive tool. I know I never really thought about what the word meant until I looked it up. I come from a large family of teasers, and looking back if we did cross a line, we were corrected and moved back on track pretty fast.
If we were to teach ourselves and our children resilience methods, we will all be able to filter what we say, hear and feel the words and tone that are being used.
It is interesting to look at the root meaning of each word – Sarcasm means to tear flesh; to wound Bully meant sweetheart or fine chap, obviously, that meaning has now changed to a person that intimidates and threatens others. How sad is that??
I don’t have an answer to the original question posed to me, only more questions for us to think with more awareness. Ask yourself; are your words, tone, intentions, your comments and quick wit used to hurt or to make someone smile?
Keep it humorous not hurtful.
Hypnosis & Music John Zimmer
It’s a great day outside and you are having a wonderful day…next thing you know, you find yourself driving down a highway for a 2-hour trip to your destination. All of a sudden, one of your very favorite songs comes through your stereo and you begin to groove…your fingers begin to snap, your feet start taping to the beat and your lip syncing (or real singing) begins. Before you know it, you have missed your exit! What just happened and why?
Most people would categorize this type of an event as Highway Hypnosis or as some people refer to is as White Line Fever. This occurs when you reach a mental state in which you can drive a vehicle over great distances, responding to external events in the expected and correct manner with no recollection of having consciously done so. Or in this case, realizing that you were at a higher level of consciousness after you passed your exit, which triggered a “wide awake” response to take you back out of hypnosis.
Music alone can be a trigger to both take you into and out of hypnosis. This can be commonly heard today among most hypnotists who make audio recordings of their work to sell to clients who want a take-home session for their audio collection. Music enhances any atmosphere and sets the tone for the event where music is being played.
Business owners for decades have understood the power of music and how it can increase sales by playing enjoyable music to keep people in the stores longer. Many people remember a company called Musak (now called Mood Media…hint, hint). This is a music service that provides retailers with uninterrupted commercial free music that is targeted towards their clientele. Statistics show that people who like a particular song will stay to the end of the song and allow the music to embellish their day by taking them back to another time, another place. Happy people buy more than sad or angry people, and I would be willing to bet that you do too!
Music and hypnosis have complemented each other for decades now. Never underestimate the power of putting on 30 minutes of your favorite music! Whether it is while you drive, time alone at work, going for a walk, or just sitting and meditating, the power of music can pull you out of your ruts and put you in a positive state of mind faster than most other techniques. By adding music to other relaxation, you have more than doubled the effectiveness!
When music is added to your hypnosis sessions, stage performances and audio recordings, you control the atmosphere and allow music to set the tone for those people participating in your activities. So the next time you find yourself as the “star of your own show”, be sure to take notice of the power that music has over you and how it can be utilized to enhance your life every day!
Zimmer CEO Hypnotic Rhythm Stage
The last of our Resilience Tutors is an animal. I promised that I would include an animal in each addition so this is about Rocky Raccoon a very resilient species!
I am having a range war with a raccoon. So of course I looked up raccoons and what they were trying to tell me. The Native American legend is that the Rocky played a trick on Coyote the trickster. It appears that Mr. Coyote likes to play tricks but is not too happy to be the one to be on the other end of the trick. He became so angry that he picked up Rocky and threw him into the fire. I realize this sounds very harsh but before you judge Mr. Coyote, perhaps he had to clean up garbage every morning even when he has locked the lid of the garbage can with bricks. Well Mr. Coyote was really not a bad guy and he started to feel bad and very quickly threw white mud on Rocky but he didn’t save the furry area around the eyes.
Rocky Raccoon comes to tell us to be aware of people that take and that we should provide for our own needs. He also reminds us to play and be adaptable. Okay Rocky I get it. Please stay out of the garbage can!